Of course one can be judgmental on just about anything and everything, but there is only one thing I want to talk about being judgmental towards: LGBTQ. And before I go any further, I should point out that this is more an apology than anything.
I’ve been told that I come across judgmental towards LGBTQ and it intends to be because of my faith; Catholicism. I never thought I did. I never meant to. Sometimes I can be harsh with my blunt words and I’m not that great at explaining things. I guess I’ll give this go though.
I don’t support same sex relationships or marriages; a choice of my own. But I don’t hate or dislike those that are in one. I could never, I’ve always been a lover and a friend. I can remember my government class and sitting on an angle from a young man who was gay. Did I move tables when I found out the second week of class? Of course not. That would just be rude and that’s not who I am. Actually he was a great classmate. He was kind, funny, and a great conversationalist. And moving to a different table? It never even crossed my mind. I still know his name to this day to be honest; and he lives across the street from my work, but I doubt he would remember me.
Does that make me sound judgmental? I don’t support the lifestyle, but how does a difference of opinion make me judgmental?
Lets take a look from the perspective of someone who does support LGBTQ. I had met this girl in my English class. We didn’t really hit it off until halfway through the semester. She was different in character, like a modern day hippy and someone who loves nature. I could tell that we were going to be good friends. We never got the chance. During the time when gay marriages was becoming legalized I had changed my profile picture on Facebook to a man and woman in marriage.
Because of this picture, she didn’t want to be friends with someone who doesn’t support gay marriages; she didn’t want to be friends with me. She actually said she couldn’t be friends with me because of this. I had no idea that a difference of opinion, supporting in different directions could make someone think you can’t be friends; that she thought we couldn’t be friends. It hurt me. I’d already been through so much with people leaving me, this was really hard for me to handle.
Doesn’t this sound judgmental?
I’m not here to judge. That isn’t why God created me. We are supposed to treat others as we would want to be treated. Granted it’s hard not too. A couple reasons why it’s hard for is 1) it bothers me that their flag is that of the rainbow. I get why it is the way it is, but it was God’s promise to us first and 2) June seems to be the month for Pride, but it’s also the month for The Sacred Heart of Jesus.
That being said, it seems like LGBTQ is trying to take over religious aspects. I say “seems like” because I am sure that is not the intentions at all. It’s just the wheels in my head spinning. It’s also everywhere. Movies, TV Shows, Books. Its hard for anyone to believe in something when there is another force shaking that belief. And for me I feel like, wanting to be a with a boy isn’t right anymore, like I’m the odd one for liking boys. Now that is probably judgmental. I’m sorry.
And I am. I’m sorry. For being judgmental, not for my beliefs or for my opinions. We all believe in something different and have different opinions; making each of us is right and everyone else is wrong. It’s the word we live in. But differences shouldn’t separate us. I don’t want it to separate me from someone who could be a potential friend. Judging is something I’ve been working on and will always have to work. And if I offended you in anyway and I don’t remember, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to. I just spoke before thinking, putt my ass in my mouth. It happens, even to the best of us.